So How’s Married Life?
I would like to write about being married. When people ask me how’s married life, especially single people, I feel the social pressure to give them the rosy picture. When married people ask me, I tell them a more truthful picture. Then they smile and give me that, “haha you newlywed (n00b)” look. But I do want to lay it out in the open, especially to you single people, how married life it is. This is strictly from our experience and other married people’s experience that I’ve noticed.
First of all, it’s pretty different than being single. Some single people have a naive thought that if they live together before getting married, it relieves some pressures of marriage. I don’t think that’s true. Also, living together to “try things out” doesn’t insure a successful marriage. Statistics show that couples who lived together before marriage have around the same divorce rate as people who didn’t live together.
Being Christian don’t matter either. Sure it sounds like it should be “different” than our heathen friends’ marriage. But statistics do show that Christian couples (whether they are really Christian or not) have the same divorce rate as non-Christian. Christians do and should take marriage more seriously, but statistics show otherwise.
Anyway, what does married life feel like? It’s pretty normal and boring. In the first month or so, we did fight a lot more about stupid stuff. The first few weeks seemed hectic compared to when we were single. It challenged us hard. I think one reason is because the finality sinks in. For example, your spouse’s little quirks and faults will be part of you for the rest of your life. That reality is hard to take in for the first few weeks.
Also, marriage itself feels stressful. I thought I was a mellow guy. But for some reason, I started to freak out. It probably has to do with the planning, the moving, other responsibilities, and reorganization of life that stresses people out.
We also don’t see our friends as much or at all. But I think that’s because we live far from our friends, and we’re just lazy and too comfortable with each other to go out.
Other than that, it’s cool. You can have all the benefits of sharing stuff with family plans, true teammwork, and someone to do my laundry for me. 